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They don't proceed in a politically correct, enlightened way to select a woman. They may end up valuing her for the "right" things, the things she wants to be valued for.

But that is not how they start. Men are hard-wired to look for certain features.

Evolution wants the mating process to succeed, and so it makes sure that men home in on that which will be conducive to success, regardless of how unrefined this strategy may be. But no matter how strange men are, if you're a woman who wants to meet the right man, you have to clue in to how men think.

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If you make it difficult to be seen -- for instance, if you sit in the back booth with shades on -- you stop Step One from happening. So none of the other steps can happen.

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Men -- regardless of their conscious attitude to having kids--are designed to look for good reproducers; a low waist-to-hip ratio of around. And in both sexes, facial beauty is associated with grace, intelligence, popularity and, in general, fitness for survival. So forget about how superficial men may be and realize that they, like you, are hard-wired ojin mysterious ways, which may or may not be as shallow woomen you think.

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But one area, at least, seems to be a no-brainer: So he tries to screen out anything that might lessen his prowess if a woman invites him to perform.

This isn't all selfish. When a man spies a woman who is really "his type" -- whatever this may be -- he thinks he has found someone whose sexual needs he could enthusiastically fulfill. Shall we blame him for thinking this is good news for her too? Vor and Tom find themselves sitting next to a rather elegant woman ks a joi bar in the business district.

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But he opted out of court work because it was too scary, and he is very conscious of a threat to his ego in this woman.